Monday, 16 February 2026

The Other Side of Together, by Emily Cox and Nicole Allen.

It's been a long time since I read an entire book in one sitting, it's been a long time since I posted a book review, and it's been a long time since I sat in bed sobbing over words on a page. This one hit the trifecta; it broke me, and so I'm sitting in a communal kitchen at 11:30 at night with my fingers flying over the keys. 

The Other Side of Together by Emily Cox and Nicole Allen is about many kinds of love. Love for the family that's related to you, love for the family that chooses you and love for the people you choose to love, even if you're not supposed to. Meili and Marcus live in San Francisco. She's the daughter of Taiwanese immigrant restaurant owners and dreams of being a chef. Marcus is the star of the soccer team on his way to an Ivy League Universit,y and the son of local detective, Ray.

Meili and her family are undocumented immigrants living in America, and she is involved with an older man named Nick, whose father helped her family enter the country illegally and set up their restaurant. At first, Nick appears to be helping her with her dreams of being a chef, promising her cooking lessons, internships, exposure and the opportunity to move to Los Angeles. It soon becomes apparent that Nick wants more from their relationship, and he becomes aggressive and violent in his pursuit of Meili. 

It's on the way home from one of these meetings that we are introduced to Marcus. Gorgeous and popular, Marcus is on his way to an Ivy League school with a full scholarship. He's the sports star every YA novel needs, and his introduction made me think that the novel was going to circle around the cliched trope of the high school heart-throb falling in love with the shy nerd.  I was put off at first because it seemed like a story that had been told over and over again. 

After a brief introduction, Marcus and Meili begin communicating via secret love notes passed between neighbour Guo Mama, and they form an immediate connection. But there's a catch. Not only can Meili not fall for Marcus because of her family's immigration status, but Marcus can't fall for Meili either. Marcus's heart and body must remain his own until he graduates. His father got his girlfriend pregnant at 18, only for her to disappear. This left him with a young son and a hatred of the fairer sex stronger than that of the most aggressively homosexual male. Ray expects his son to swear off women the same way he has, and  has promised him a motorbike if he stays away from the temptresses that walk his halls until after he graduates. Girls, dating and relationships are off limits if he wants to ride off into the sunset on a shiny set of wheels. Marcus's member has to remain permanently concealed. 

This resolve begins to falter once he starts spending time with Meili, but he is remarkably self-controlled for a teenage boy for a good half of the novel. They go on dates, they hold hands, but their lips remain sealed. Not only because he doesn't want to miss out on his free motorbike, but also because Meili refuses to tell him about her family's status and relationship with Nick. Even when he catches him aggressively attempting to kiss her, earning him the title of Face Eater, she doesn't tell him what's going on.

Alongside the Meili/ Marcus/ motorbike/ immigration drama, there's also a B-plot that could have done with fleshing out. We are told that 14 women have gone missing from the town. This isn't really mentioned again until the end of the novel. 

As the novel progresses, the serious nature of what Meili is concealing becomes more apparent. Nick returns and assaults her in his apartment, and his henchman attacks Marcus on his way home. Despite these physical altercations, it's not until his grandma catches him completely ignoring his father's wishes and finally making it to second base that Meili finally flees. He thinks it's because his grandmother caught him in a jam; she knows that Marcus is likely to be attacked again and that she and her family are also in danger. Leaving his apartment, she promptly ghosts him in an attempt to keep the two of them, and her entire family, safe and refuses to reveal her secrets. 

As Marcus desperately tries to reach out, Meili continues to isolate herself. Ignoring his phone calls, video chat attempts and messages despite his persistence. These attempts fall on heartbroken ears as Nick returns to San Francisco to collect his "prize". Meili flies to Los Angeles to play the role of his fiancĂ©e. 

He dresses her, buys her jewels and makes it abundantly clear that her family will suffer if she refuses to play the role of his doting future wife. He owns her; she was promised to him, and it's not only until the reappearance of the missing character from the very beginning of the novel that there's any whisper of his plans unravelling. 

I told you the B-plot needed fleshing out. 

Su Ling returns as a waitress at the gala Nick uses to debut his future bride and tells Meili that she was trafficked and taken away from her children. As he attempts to rape Meili, Su Ling assaults him and helps her escape from LA, throwing her into a taxi that drives her from LA to San Francisco and she lands at Guo Mama's front door.

In attempts to rid himself from his heart-break, Marcus attends his senior prom with a girl called Taveh who's apparently been in love with him since the 6th grade. She plays a very small part in the novel, but is a fun tertiary character and provides light relief from the seriousness of the plot. She's cute, she dances, and she's under no illusion that Marcus has any interest in her and listens to him talk about Meili. She leaves triumphantly, pleased with herself for finally telling him how she feels, and goes off to Berkeley University without being mentioned again. 

Seriously, the number of students who end up going to Ivy League schools is nothing short of a miracle. 

Returning home, Marcus overhears Ray on the phone and learns that he has been lying to him. He doesn't believe all women are the devil after all and is dating a woman called Kenna, who's brief introduction causes Marcus to throw some serious shade at Ray for lying and runs to find Meili. It's really convenient how he doesn't know she ever left and yet he miraculously finds her at Guo Mama's house immediately after she returns, but this is a YA text after all. 

Ignoring Guo Mama's insistence that they can't be together, he finds Meili on the floor of the shower, covered in the evidence of Nick's assault. He diverts his gaze, covers her in a robe and carries her to bed, where she finally tells him what she has been hiding for so long and falls asleep in his arms. If it weren't a story peppered with human trafficking, assault and the threat of deportation, it would be the moment that every woman has ever dreamed of. 

Guo Mama explains to Marcus that it is not safe for Meili to remain in San Francisco but that she has a cousin in Seattle with a cottage, conveniently big enough for two, and that he could go with her. He runs home to collect his things and is immediately cornered by his father in full-on police mode, who threatens to arrest him, pumps him full of questions about Meili and reveals that he has been involved in a 4 year investigation about Nick. Thanks to Meili's anonymous tip, he has now been arrested for sex trafficking. He takes Marcus home, making him promise not to leave the house and returns to the station, rapping up the story line with far less information than was needed. 

Given that this is a YA novel and there is nothing stronger than a teenage romance, Marcus ignores his father's wishes and rides his motorbike over to Meili, riding off into the sunset in a way that can only exist in the romantic fiction. The story ends, Meili escapes, and I didn't get the epilogue I so desperately craved.

Seriously, the temptation to write my own fanfic for this one is strong. 

As I said, this novel broke me. As much of a crier as I am, I rarely cry over books, preferring to save my tears for my own pity parties. I fully expected this text to be the stereotypical sports superstar meets shy nerd romance, with only a small altercation around 75% of the way through, threatening to keep them apart, but I was wrong. This novel was brutal, beautiful, and although I would have preferred to learn more about Meili's family and their immigration to America, the main plot was thoroughly fleshed out. It's a short text, less than 300 pages and, I can understand why the authors chose not to add more to these secondary and tertiary plot lines. Would I recommend it? Yes. Would I recommend reading it when you're in a good mood? Yes. But would I recommend reading it without a box of tissues to hand?

Hell fucking no. 

xXx

Find The Other Side of Together and it's sequel The Other Side of Apart here: 

www.emilycoxnicoleallen.com

https://a.co/d/0cbcIn68

Monday, 9 February 2026

How to protect yourself while you travel


As a solo female traveller, it is important that I have travel insurance or medical protection when I travel. Not just for my own safety, but to protect my belongings as well. Travel insurance is also important for protecting you financially against any extenuating circumstances while you're on your trip, such as bad weather affecting flights or hotels being closed down. 

Here's a list of how travel insurance has benefited me on my trips, alternatives to travel insurance when travelling long term and the travel insurance services I have used while travelling. 

Ambulance rides 

When I lived in Melbourne I hurt my back and couldn't move for a week. When I eventually tried to go back to work I hurt my back again and was in so much pain that I couldn't move. I didn't think to get an Uber to the hospital and instead called an ambulance, which ended up costing me $1,200. The medical treatment itself was free thanks to the reciprocal health agreement between Australia and the UK, but that didn't cover the cost of getting to the hospital. 

I understandably freaked out when I got the bill but thankfully I paid for insurance before I left. Although I had to pay for the journey initially, I was able to claim the money back through my travel insurance by filling out a simple form. It was easy to get the money back and the cost of my insurance was a lot less than the cost of the ambulance ride. 

Country specific alternatives to travel insurance 

As a UK citizen I am eligible for free medical care under the reciprocal health agreement, but this isn't the case for every country. If your country does not fall under a similar agreement there are services that you can apply for that will protect you while you travel. 

In Australia this is called Medicare. It's a service that you can apply for that provides you with free hospital care and can give you discounts on medical appointments through a partial refund process. You are also able to apply for these refunds after the appointment by applying with your receipt online. All you need to do is fill out a form and you will be sent a physical card and can also use a digital card by downloading the myGov app. It's easy to do and definitely worth it to protect yourself while you travel. 

Ontario also have a similar system called OHIP. Find out more about applying for Medicare and OHIP via these sites. 

Australian Medicare: https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/enrolling-medicare?context=60092

OHIP: https://www.ontario.ca/page/apply-ohip-and-get-health-card

Sexual health

Protecting your sexual health is just as important as taking care of your physical health no matter where you are in the world and I have been able to receive great sexual health care whilst I've been travelling. In Toronto I was able to access free sexual health care at the IWHC which specialises in treating immigrant, refugee and marginalised women in Toronto and they offer a variety of services including testing and treatment for sexually transmitted diseases, birth control options and smear tests. There are charges for certain services such as IUD insertion, but for the most part they provide free care. 

The Northern Territory have a similar service called Clinic 34. They have locations across the Northern Territory and offer free sexual health screening as well as a variety of other services. Those in need can also access their needle and syringe program which provides free injecting equipment and sharps disposal and provide access to drug treatment programmes and support for those in need. Sexual health and drug issues can affect us wherever we are in the world and it's important to know the services that are available to you. 

Sexual health screenings are also available online. Information about services, costs and telehealth services can be found on the STI Clinic Australia website https://www.sticlinicaustralia.com.au/

Private health insurance

When I lived in Toronto I had to have route canal surgery. The surgery itself obviously wasn't a pleasant experience but the biggest shock was the cost. I paid over $1,500 for appointments, surgery and follow ups which weren't covered by OHIP. This made me realise that the cost of dental care is a lot higher than I had first thought.

This means that I became very cautious about dental care once I moved to Australia. I knew that I would not be able to pay for anymore dental treatments of that level out of pocket and dental care is not covered by Medicare either. 

It was important to me that I didn't have to pay such a high amount again and so I decided to invest in private health insurance. I chose Bupa as it had the best cover for my needs and offered 8 weeks free when I signed up. Paying for this service gave me significant discount on dental treatments. You are able to pay fortnightly, monthly or for longer periods of time and the staff were incredibly helpful. 

This service also benefited me when I was bitten by a mosquito in 2024 and developed MRSA. Once again my ambulance ride was not covered by Medicare or the reciprocal health agreement but I didn't have to pay anything to be taken to hospital thanks to my private health insurance. 

Travel insurance providers I have used

I have used the same travel insurance provider when I've been travelling around Europe since I first started travelling. My dad is a postman in England and so he bought me fliers about the UK Post Office travel insurance. They provide great easy to use travel insurance for my short term trips across Europe and I felt comfortable using a service based in my home country. I also used their services when I travelled across the United States and Canada over the summer. I am lucky enough to still have an official UK address and knew that if I had any medical issues and had to be taken home, I would want to be around my family instead of going back to the Australia where I lived alone. 

This service was not suitable for me when I started to travel long term. When I moved to Canada a part of my visa requirements was that I had to prove I had travel insurance. I chose to use World Nomads as it was recommended by the company that I used to apply for my visa and I used the same service when I moved to Australia. They have options for different levels of cover depending on your needs and what you plan on doing on your trip and also provide basic universal cover. I was able to purchase a year's cover when I first moved and extend it for a second year once my first year Visa had expired. The company does not allow you to extend your cover for over two years but they were a very easy service to use during my two year cover. 

Finding cover once you've started travelling

I found it difficult to find travel insurance once I was already travelling which is one of the other reasons that I use Bupa private health insurance. I know that his is not the best way of protecting myself while I travel but financially it was the best choice for me. There are a lot of services and search engines that you can use if you chose to purchase travel insurance while you are already away, and I've found the companies that I have sent enquiries to to be very helpful. 

What travel insurance or health insurance services do you use while you travel?

xXx

Wednesday, 4 February 2026

Somewhere new


I haven't blogged in a while because I still maintain my fear and insecurity that if no one reads my blog then there is no point in writing it. I've moved my posts back to my previous blog which people actually read to make myself feel a little better, but what it's more important that I stop worrying about what other people think of my writing and just get on with it. 

The last few months have been intense, even by my standards. When I returned from my trip I moved back to Darwin, despite realising that it really wasn't what I wanted. I knew when I left that when I finished my trip I would either want to stay in Darwin forever or never go back again. Turns out it was the latter and leaving Berlin was harder than usual. One of the reasons I didn't want to go back was the fact that the job I had when I returned was no longer available. My feelings towards unemployment are well known and one night before I went to my favourite techno club I sent what can only be described as an honest job application. I didn't care. All I wanted was to apply for any job I could so I didn't have to go back to Darwin with no income. Especially because I had been told I would have an income when I went back to Norther Territory. 

Once back in Darwin I continued my quest for a job and, somehow, managed to secure a position as an assistant manger at an Hotel in what can only be described as the middle of wank ass nowhere. After a brief stint as a bartender at a karaoke bar where I was fired without warning in old-age method of just refusing to give someone hours,  I packed up my shit and moved to Nhulunbuy.

I hated it. The people were nice but the most exciting things that happened throughout my time there was meeting a cockatoo that I named Colin and fed rice cakes on my balcony. I could work out and go to the library, but that was fucking it. I tried, I really really tried, but when I was constantly being undermined by one of my own staff members, struggled with numbers and was reported to HR for an issue that didn't happen on the premises, I realised it was time to go. 

Nhulunbuy is tiny. There are less people living there than the village my mum lives in and the airport is so small that next year they are planning on moving it to the other side of the road. As you can imagine, this airport doesn't fly to many places and given that I didn't want to return to Darwin and that I'm not part of any indigenous community and therefore can not live in Groote Eylandt, Cairns was the only other option. 

And that's how I found myself in Queensland. For the first time in a good 7 and a half years I'm actually living in a place that I'd previously visited, although I don't know if a weekend long vacation two years ago really count. So far I like it here, it's easy to get around, the library is beautiful and aside from the fact that there are even more licensing requirements, which is making finding employment difficult, it's pretty nice. I even have a sweet gig cleaning a hostel for free accommodation and gym use. But, even with all of this, I don't know if I want to stay. 

Darwin was the last "city" I lived in and it was tiny. Before that I lived in Sydney, Melbourne and Toronto and I miss living in places where there are actually things to do. I've agreed to work for a month from my arrival in this hostel, and I'm planning on giving it until the beginning of March to see if I want to stay. I've applied for 61 jobs/bars so far and have only received 4 responses, I have an interview today and I'm holding out hope that it goes well because I'm starting to fall back hating myself for not having a job. If nothing turns up by the end of the month I'll be leaving Cairns, whether that's a good thing or not I don't know. 

Stay safe on the road

J